One of these days I was at a restaurant table having dinner with some friends and we saw a woman, in her 40s, at a nearby table, drinking her glass of wine and eating her plate, alone.

The woman had a powerful face and looks: impeccably aligned straight tresses, delicate jewelry, soft makeup, a linen blazer with a perfect fit and… the reason for all the greed and envy of the women… a Hermés Birkin caramel tote.

I liked the girl. She ordered a creme brulee and smiled when it arrived. I trust people who smiles when good food arrives.

But the chicks were relentless in the comments.

“Why she is dining alone?”

“Must be bossy.” “Unbearable” “don’t stop looking at her cell phone”.

Shame on them!

In my circle of friends: the majority complain about female bosses. But good boss men. The female bosses, according to them, are envious of you, compete, pull your rug, and never go with your face. “I hate boss women”. Detail: the problem is not with colleagues. The problem is the boss.

I was wondering if they are really right, after all they are my friends. Does a woman have to be a bitch, unscrupulous, bad character to win a career?

I went to get my experiences from my origins. Before becoming a businesswoman, I worked in 4 companies, 3 as an intern and 1 as a trainee.

I had 2 female bosses. An incredible experience, another not so much.

Let’s talk about the bad experience first. We never got along. I was always suspicious of her, because she was very nice at the beginning, too much. But I posed a threat to her, as she was the right hand of the business owner. In the end, I left for a better opportunity, but I have no affection for her. We never fight, I’m on the peace team. But that I would never put my hand on the fire for her, ever.

With another job, it was different. My boss was 15 years older than me, and already the area director, and I was her partner at work, as her intern. She taught me absolutely everything I know today about graphics, printing, files, layouts. she introduced me to all suppliers, and when I gained more experience, she made me feel free to conduct meetings with other people in the company and with suppliers. she corrected me (several times) when I had to correct myself (after all I was still a junior) and encouraged me to go forward, without fear. I think the best of all was shot out of all 4 work experiences. Not because the company was awesome. It was a complicated product, of material for machinery and systems, and I never quite understood what we made. But my surroundings were incredible. I don’t think I’ve ever worked as hard as at that company, and I don’t have an ounce of resentment or bad memories. And if I had an exemplary boss, I can say it was her.

As for male bosses, I had 2. One good and one bad too.

That is, in the final count, men and women tied.

So I challenge my friends here: only I was the lucky one or are they really the unlucky ones that only get the crap?

I must say that I am not the exception. I have met countless women in my life, and I know at least a good dozen bosses: partner lawyers from large offices, doctors, businesswomen, editors, directors, senior managers.

Some great friends. All of them, with a very high degree of ethics, common sense, and what is right and wrong.

I have no weak friend. They are all firm points and do not take offense at home. They also don’t make fun of it for free.

They can’t be the jealous, stupid, criminal bosses that my friends talk about. Perhaps one or the other, but all, most do not.

I think that society, and some women (unfortunately several) already pre-judge our class.

The man who wins in life is the fucking best, but the woman who wins in life is a whore or her daughter.

I never forget an event several years ago, where the executive who brought McDonalds and Starbucks to Brazil, Maria Luiza Rodenbeck died in a traffic accident in Rio de Janeiro. She was in a taxi at 6:50 am.

We discussed this at lunch me, my father and my brother. The conclusion of the 2: “she certainly pressured the taxi driver to run and then they hit the bus. You know, executive female, you got what you asked for ”.

I never forgot that comment. I went to Rio countless times and all of them kept my heart in hand with the taxi drivers there. I don’t know why they do that, because in São Paulo it is not like that. But the taxi drivers from Rio, all of them, run like unfortunates. I always asked for calm, I was in no hurry. But they stepped on the accelerator, cutting the tracks, passing a red light without seeing. At a carnival in Rio, going to Sapucaí, the driver did almost 130 km / h on the track, in the middle of an urban road. I had to shout for him to slow down.

I’m not saying whose fault it was. It may have been the taxi driver’s, it may have been the executive’s. But without knowing the facts, my father and brother have already drawn their conclusion. Unscrupulous, angry, inflexible executive. And without an ounce of pity for the death of a pioneer woman, incredible.

But if it were Lemann, Diniz, all male bosses, they would be in mourning. Regardless if they were the one who asked the driver to run.

I write this text, and I participate in several women’s empowering communities. In all of them, I hit the key that if prejudice prevails, women will never rise to the top. And the few that triumph are burned like the pseudo witches of the inquisition, because someone spoke, several listened. They are abnormal women, who put their careers above their husbands and the formation of a family, and should be at home piloting the stove instead of a company or conglomerate. It sounds like a sexist and abusive pig joke, doesn’t it? So why do women still give voice to this speech that successful, bossy women are horrible? If you had a bad boss, and I did too, erase it from memory and a clear mind for the next bosses. If you already go with this “I hate woman boss” mantra, I guarantee you, at least half the blame for a future bad experience is yours! Ladies, let’s get together. Instead of judging the successful Hermes tote owner, let us toast to it its success and inspire us. We will be dumb to buy the speech that the chief woman is terrible!